Vince Rapisura 2654: Say 'No' sa Pasko without the Guilt: Tips ni Alex mula Italy!
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00:00.2
Hello mga kasosyo at mga kanegosyo. Welcome sa Usapang Pera Live.
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Ako ang inyong financial guru, C. Sir Vince.
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Saan mang panignang mundo kayo naroon ngayon ay sana po nasa mabuti kayong kalagayan.
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Ang pag-uusapan po natin ngayong episode na ito ay
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How to say no this Christmas season to protect your financial goals or your life goals.
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Makakasama ko ang isa sa mga magaganda at matatalinong resource speakers ng Ateneo
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Overseas Filipinos, Leadership, Social Innovation, Financial Literacy, and Entrepreneurship.
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Kamukhang kamukha ni Alex Gonzaga. Alex din ang pangalan niya.
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Oo, grabe naman yung intro ni Vince.
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Can you tell us where you are right now, Alex?
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I'm joining you all from Florence, Italy.
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Sabihin mo naman sa amin bakit ka nandyan?
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I came here in 2005, Vince. Ang tagal na. It's over 18 years ago.
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I got my master's in fashion, merchandising, and marketing.
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I met my husband, so I decided to settle down here.
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Ako po ay Batanggenya. I studied in the States.
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Bago po ako naging communication coach, my background has always been in fashion,
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in different multicultural environments.
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When I became a mom noong 2015 po, and I realized na kung hindi na po pwede yung hectic na lifestyle in fashion
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kasi I want to be a hands-on mom.
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That's when I decided to pivot into education para sabay po kami ng bakasyon ng anak ko.
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At that point, I asked myself, well, what is it in my background na po pwede kong gawing basis to start a new career?
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And I realized, you know, I've always been communicating with different people from different backgrounds and cultures.
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Why don't I start there?
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Today, we'll have a little bit of that straight, honest, and real talk.
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There. These are the three things that I'd like to talk to you about.
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Today, cultural norms, the Christmas fact, how to say no effectively.
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Unang-una, unawain natin bakit nga ba para sa ating mga Pilipino, ang hirap-hira magsabi ng no o huminti.
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Iba yung lumalabas sa bibig natin, pero sa totoo lang, gusto natin mag-no.
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Why does the Christmas season make that even harder?
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We're going to look at practical strategies, very simple action items,
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how we can effectively say no.
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Tayo pong mga Pilipino, just like a lot of other Asian, East Asian cultures specifically,
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and some Latin American cultures, we belong to what we call a collectivist culture.
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It means we prioritize the greater good as opposed to individualistic.
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Inauna natin kung ano yung sa tingin natin makakabuti sa mas marami.
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So, palaging second place.
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Minsan nga, third place tayo.
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It's very other-oriented.
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Yung self-disclosure natin is very low kasi nga ayaw natin na maka-offend, ayaw natin ng conflict.
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We don't like confrontation.
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We try to keep things to ourselves.
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In terms of communication, anong ibig sabihin po yan?
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Most of us po, very indirect ang form of communication natin.
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It means we don't normally say what we mean.
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As opposed to, other-wise.
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Western cultures, for example, Americans, as we know, they speak their minds with absolutely no problems.
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Ibig sabihin, marami tayong hindi sinasabi.
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We don't use our words as much.
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Instead, kailangan basahin ng tao yung ekspresyo natin, yung body language natin.
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Collectivist culture, style of communication, and of course, we're very family-centric.
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It means we put our family above everything else.
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So, I'm also talking about yun pong ating pagka-tight knit.
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It's the concept of extended family.
